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Curated lifestyle experiences with zero pretense and maximum fun. Browse events, apply for invitations, and join sophisticated gatherings designed for authentic connection and exploration

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Frequently Asked

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW

◎ ABOUT 69ROOMS

Think of us as your gateway to sophisticated adult connection. 69Rooms is a curated lifestyle party series under the UNDRMSK umbrella. Every event is thoughtfully designed for adults who value real connection, mutual respect, and the freedom to explore in beautiful, intentional spaces.

Great question. UNDRMSK events are intimate, art-focused, and smaller (15–30 people)—think curated salon vibes with a creative edge. 69Rooms is larger-scale (50–100+ people), more high-energy lifestyle parties with a focus on social connection and exploration. Both are under the same umbrella, just different experiences.

◎ GETTING STARTED & BECOMING A MEMBER

Here's the flow: browse our events page, find an event that excites you, and hit 'Join the Experience.' Fill out the application honestly (we read every single one), pay the application fee (refunded if not approved), and upload your photos. Once approved, you're in. You'll have instant access to your personal dashboard where you can see your application status, manage your tickets, update your profile, and subscribe to Premium Membership if you want additional perks. No approval? You won't be charged—simple as that.

Absolutely. You can update your phone number and password directly in your dashboard anytime. Need to change your email? That requires our team's help—just shoot us a message via our Contact Us page and we'll handle it. Your account type can't be changed after approval, but you don't need to—just apply to any event as a different type (solo, couple, etc.) and we'll review based on your existing approval status.

◎ APPLYING & GETTING APPROVED

Simple: pick an event that excites you, fill out the application (yes, we actually read it), and tell us who you are. We're not looking for perfect—we're looking for genuine. If we vibe with your energy, you'll get an approval decision within 72 hours.

Nope. No upfront costs, no monthly dues—unless you want our Premium Membership ($69/month), which unlocks our matchmaking system, priority booking, and additional perks. Otherwise, you just initiate a payment intent for approval to the events you want to attend. Pricing varies by event and who you're attending as—all transparently listed on each event page. Approved applicants become members at no additional cost.

Glad you asked. It's exclusive to Premium Members and it's honestly game-changing. Our algorithm analyzes compatibility across attraction, play preferences, boundaries, experience level, and social chemistry. Think of it as your intelligent wingman—introducing you to people you'll actually click with before the event even starts. Less awkward small talk, more natural sparks.

Honestly? You. Not the version of you that you think we want to see—the real you. What makes you interesting? What lights you up? Why would you elevate the energy in the room? We can spot generic or AI-generated answers from a mile away. Be thoughtful, be authentic, and show us why you'd be a positive addition to our curated community.

Two reasons: authenticity and safety. Photos help us understand your vibe and how you present yourself. They're also critical for our check-in process—we need to verify you're actually you when you arrive. Your application photos are strictly private (only our team sees them during review or if there's an incident).

You'll get an instant payment confirmation email (check spam if you don't see it). If you typed your email wrong, text us and we will assist. Most applications are reviewed within 3 business days. Solo male applications might take a bit longer since we're super intentional about balance. We will reach out with our final decision, so make sure you check your email (including spam folder).

It depends. We have two types of rejections: soft rejections (apply again to the next event—maybe you were too generic, photos unclear, or vibe didn't quite match) and hard rejections (don't reapply—behavior concerns, safety flags, or values misalignment). You'll know which one applies based on whether you receive a specific timeline or permanent ban notice. Soft rejection issues? Take the feedback, refine your approach, and try again later. Hard rejections equal a ban and are final.

Once you're approved, you're approved—period. Your approval status stays active indefinitely. However, you do need to apply to each event individually. Think of it like this: approval = you're in the community. Event application = you're saying 'I want to attend this specific party.' Each event has its own application fee, and we review to ensure proper balance and capacity. Your dashboard shows all your event applications and their statuses in one place.

Not directly, but we've got you covered. If you realize you made a mistake or want to add something important, email us immediately with your application details and what you'd like to change. We'll update it before review. After approval, you can update profile info in your dashboard anytime.

We'll likely reject your application or reach out for clarification if something's obviously off. Here's the thing: if we can't verify you at the door (wrong name, different person than photos, fake ID), you're not getting in—no refunds, no exceptions. Honesty isn't just our policy, it's how we keep everyone safe. Be real with us, and we'll be real with you.

Absolutely—it's automatic. If we don't approve your application, you get a full refund of the event application fee. No hoops, no hassle. We only charge approved members, because that's fair. Think of the application fee as your ticket to the vetting process—if you don't make it through, you get your money back, simple as that.

◎ ACCOUNT TYPES, RELATIONSHIPS & TICKETING

Absolutely! Your account type isn't locked forever. Approved as a couple but your partner's busy? Apply as single to an event—you'll pay the single rate and our team will review based on your existing approval. Approved solo but now have a partner? Apply as a couple—your partner will need vetting, but you won't start from scratch. We understand relationships and situations change. Just reapply for each event with your current status, and we'll handle the rest. Note: you'll pay the application fee each time, but your vetting history carries forward.

Everyone—and we mean everyone—needs to apply and be approved individually. If you're applying with a partner, select "Couple" on the application. If you're approved solo but want to attend with someone new, just apply again for that event as a couple. Our system is flexible: once you're approved, you can choose how you want to attend each time—solo, partnered, or with someone new.

Yep! If you're already an approved member and want to attend with a friend (romantic or not), just apply to the event as a 'Couple.' In our world, 'couple' applies to married partners, dating partners, play partners, and platonic friends attending together—basically any duo. Your friend will need to be vetted too since everyone goes through approval, but your existing member status helps smooth the process. Not approved yet? Just apply as a couple from the start and you'll both be reviewed together.

Love this question. Here's the deal: our system lets you apply event-by-event, selecting who you're attending with each time. Approved solo? You can apply as a couple for a specific event—your new partner just needs individual approval too. You can have multiple profiles with different email addresses for different partners, or maintain one profile and choose how you're applying each time. Whatever your dynamic, we'll make it work—just email us at 69rooms@undrmsk.com for personalized guidance.

We love this. Healthy relationships have different desires, and that's totally normal. Many couples attend to explore individually, together, or side-by-side with their own connections. Communicate clearly with each other beforehand, check in during the event, and use our space however works for your dynamic. There's no "right" way to do this.

◎ PRIVACY & SAFETY

Absolutely! We ask for your legal name solely to verify your identity at the door—that's it. Everywhere else (your profile, at events, in our community), you can go by whatever name feels right. Many members use playful aliases or just their first name. Your legal name is never mentioned publicly or shared with other members unless you choose to reveal it yourself. Be whoever you want to be.

Nope, and here's why: privacy works both ways. Think about it—if someone could see your profile just because you're attending, you'd want that info protected too, right? We limit this visibility by design to protect everyone's discretion. That said, if you want to connect with other members before or after events, we have a private Telegram community. Just text us and request access—we'll hook you up.

Absolutely. We work with experienced security professionals who understand lifestyle events and discretion. They're present from check-in through the end of the night—verifying tickets, monitoring entryways, keeping an eye on personal belongings, and available immediately if any situation arises. Their presence is intentionally low-key but always effective. Think of them as the invisible safety net that lets you focus entirely on the experience. We've built a reputation for safe, respectful environments, and our security team is a big part of why.

Tell our team immediately. We have staff and security present specifically for this. We take consent and safety seriously—if someone crosses a line, they're out.

Mutual discretion is assumed. If you see someone you know, that information stays confidential—just like everything else at 69Rooms. Everyone should appreciate the unspoken agreement: what happens here, stays here. You can choose to acknowledge each other or not—totally up to you.

◎ EVENT EXPERIENCE & ENVIRONMENT

Not even close. Our community thrives on welcoming energy—people actually talk to each other here. Whether you're flying solo or bringing your partner, you'll find friendly faces and easy conversation. Pro tip: arrive early in the welcome window to ease in before the crowd builds.

We don't host separate pre-event mixers, and here's why: our events are intentionally designed to create that organic socialization experience from the moment you walk in. The welcome hour, the opening talk, the way we facilitate introductions—it's all built to help you ease in naturally, meet people authentically, and feel part of the energy. Separate mixers would dilute that magic. Just show up, and you'll click with people effortlessly.

Simple: if applications are closed, the event is at capacity. You won't see an option to apply. Our system automatically manages capacity based on gender balance and venue limits, so if the 'Join the Experience' button isn't there, we're full for that demographic.

It's our automatic capacity management in action. 'Accepting Applications' means we're still reviewing and have room. 'Closed' means we've hit our limit for that account type (single male, single female, couple, or non-binary) and need to maintain proper balance. This ensures every event has the right energy and ratio.

Yep! If an event is at capacity, you'll see a waitlist feature appear on the event page. Join it, and if a spot opens up (cancellations happen), we'll notify you immediately with a chance to snag that ticket. It's first-come, first-served from the waitlist, so act fast when you get the notification.

You'll find a diverse mix across all age groups—vibrant members in their 20s discovering the lifestyle, seasoned explorers in their 30s and 40s who know what they want, and confident legends in their 50s and beyond. The common thread isn't age, it's energy and intentionality. We're looking for people who take care of themselves, show up with presence, and bring positive vibes. It's less about your birthday and more about how you carry yourself in the room.

69Rooms is designed for larger-scale lifestyle events—think 50–75 people on average, sometimes up to 100+ depending on the venue. Our events under UNDRMSK are smaller, more intimate, art-focused gatherings.

We host events in all major cities across the country including Los Angeles, Miami, and New York. Each venue is carefully selected for its ambiance, privacy, and capacity to create the elevated experience our community expects. Check our events page to see upcoming locations and dates.

Yes. Most venues have quieter lounge areas, chill-out rooms, or outdoor spaces where you can decompress. You're not expected to be "on" the entire time. Take breaks, recharge, and re-engage when you're ready.

◎ DRESS CODE, PACKING & ARRIVAL

Every event lists specific themes and dress codes with inspiration boards to guide you. Expect thoughtful execution—our community shows up dressed to impress. If it's themed, everyone commits. For elegant affairs, think cocktail attire or suits. Pro tip: bring a change of clothes. Many guests start modestly during the social hour, then switch into something more expressive.

Definitely. Bring a change of clothes, personal items, maybe some toys you love. Events are BYOB for alcohol (we provide mixers, water, glassware, and refreshment bites). We've got you covered on essentials: condoms, lube, massage oil, towels. Feel free to bring your favorite toys, games or whatever makes you comfortable. Just leave valuables at home.

There's a 1-hour arrival window for a reason: everyone needs to be present for our opening talk. That's where we establish consent and guidelines. No talk - no play. Plan ahead.

1–2 days before the event (sometimes day-of for extra privacy). You'll get an email with a link to view the location. We keep addresses private to protect our guests and our venues—only confirmed ticket holders get access.

We'll email you the venue details 1–2 days before the event. Make sure to check your email and spam folder (sometimes our messages sneak in there).

◎ PHOTOS, DEVICES & MEDIA

Personal photography is welcome during the social hour in our designated photo zones—perfect for capturing your look without worrying about who's in the background. All devices must be put away once the opening talk begins. This policy protects everyone's privacy and keeps the space feeling safe and present. Violating our photo policy results in immediate removal and a permanent ban from all future events.

◎ PLAY, BOUNDARIES & CONSENT

Hard limits are the absolute no-go boundaries that keep everyone safe and respected. At 69Rooms, here's what's off the table: anything non-consensual (obviously), heavy impact play, breath play, blood play, fire play, scat, extreme age play, intoxication to the point of incapacity, and any activity that could cause injury or puts others at risk. Light bondage, sensory play, and consensual kink are totally welcome. But we're a sex-positive space, not a hardcore dungeon. Safety, consent, and respect come first, always.

Some venues have light bondage setups or designated play spaces, and you're welcome to bring personal toys. Our focus is connection and consensual exploration—not hardcore kink. Light BDSM? Totally fine. Heavy impact play, breath play, fire play, blood play? Not allowed.

Absolutely not. Zero expectations and zero pressure. You can observe, socialize, vibe with your partner, or fully explore—whatever feels right in the moment. Many guests participate differently at different events. Use your words, respect boundaries, and create your own experience.

Of course. There's no "required" activity at our events. Some people vibe through sensual touch, making out, watching, or just connecting emotionally. Consent means you get to define your own boundaries—and everyone else respects them.

We strongly encourage regular testing—because taking care of your sexual health is attractive and responsible. While we don't mandate STI tests for entry, we do emphasize informed consent and open communication as core community values. During our opening talk at every event, we remind members to know their status, test regularly, and be ready to have honest conversations with potential partners about recent results and safer sex practices. Your health, your responsibility, your conversation to have.

◎ SOLO ATTENDANCE & COMMUNITY DYNAMICS

Totally normal to feel butterflies. Here's the reality: our members are vetted, respectful, and genuinely interested in creating positive connections. The environment is consent-focused from the moment you walk in. Our advice? Arrive during the early part of the welcome window—give yourself time to meet our team, settle into the space, and chat with other early arrivals before the energy builds. Staff and seasoned members are great at making introductions and helping you feel included. Just be yourself, stay open, and you'll find your groove.

We actively manage ratios to ensure a comfortable, low-pressure atmosphere at every event. Generally, we aim for more women than men, which creates better energy and more opportunities for organic connection. Our system tracks applications in real-time by account type (single male, single female, couple, non-binary), and we adjust capacity accordingly. If solo women are buying faster, we'll release more solo male spots to maintain balance. It's intentional curation, not luck.

Show up with curiosity, not expectations. Be genuinely friendly, respectful, and present—this isn't a transactional space. Dress well (or commit to the theme), arrive slightly early to meet people as they trickle in, and introduce yourself naturally. Our community values authentic energy over aggressive pursuit. You might be exactly the person someone's hoping to connect with, or you might spend the night having fascinating conversations and nothing more. Both are completely valid experiences. Just bring positive energy and see where the night takes you.

100%. 69Rooms welcomes all gender identities and sexual orientations. Apply in the way that feels authentic to you. We're built on communication and consent, and we believe everyone is entitled to their own preferences in intimacy. In situations involving direct sexual interaction, we encourage proactive, honest communication about anything that may significantly affect another person's experience.

◎ DRINKS, ALCOHOL & FOOD

Events are BYOB—bring whatever you like to drink. We provide mixers, sparkling water, glassware, and light aphrodisiac-infused bites.

Leave the meal prep at home—we've got the refreshments covered. Our venues have specific catering arrangements, and we provide curated bites and treats at every event. Plus, navigating a potluck spread in your event attire isn't exactly the vibe we're going for. Focus on the drinks, the connections, and the experience—your snack situation is already handled. 😏

◎ TICKETS, REFUNDS & FLEXIBILITY

Life happens. Generally speaking, tickets are non-refundable closer to the event date to protect venue commitments and guest list curation. That said, reach out to us as soon as you know you can't make it—we'll review your situation on a case-by-case basis. If you notify us at least 3 days in advance, we can often transfer your ticket to a future event. The key is communication: don't ghost us, and we'll do our best to work with you.

Absolutely. No hard feelings. Just let our team know you're heading out so we don't worry about you. Your comfort always comes first.

◎ PREMIUM MEMBERSHIP

Visit the Subscription page to upgrade anytime, or after you're approved, head to your Dashboard and click 'Upgrade to Premium.' Premium perks kick in immediately once you subscribe, including matchmaking eligibility, priority booking, and exclusive member benefits. It's $69/month and you can cancel anytime.

Everything lives in your dashboard. Log in and head to the Subscription section where you can view your membership status, billing history, and cancel anytime. To update your payment method, please contact our team at 69rooms@undrmsk.com — we'll help you update it securely through Stripe.

Priority booking gives Premium Members a 48-hour head start before events go public. Here's how it works: when we release a new event, Premium Members get exclusive early access to apply and secure their spot. By the time the event opens to the general community, you've already locked in your ticket (assuming you're approved). It's your VIP pass to never missing out on the events you want to attend.

◎ NOTIFICATIONS & UPDATES

Easy—subscribe to our newsletter. You'll find the signup form in the footer of our website. We'll email you when new events drop, exclusive announcements, and community updates. Premium Members also get early access notifications 48 hours before events go public, so you can snag tickets before the crowd. Stay in the loop, never miss out.

◎ FEEDBACK & COMMUNITY INPUT

We love feedback. Email us at team@undrmsk.com with your thoughts—what worked, what didn't, what could be better. We're constantly evolving based on what our community tells us. Your voice matters. Want deeper connection and aftercare? Consider our Premium Membership for exclusive benefits and ongoing support.